Wendy

Hi, my name is Kristy. I have a worrying problem, every so often I
 wake my partner with either light hearted “silly”  remarks or actions or
 harsh abuse. only a couple of times I have realised I have done something but most times I am told by morning about it. it is highly embarrassing and  concerns me as some of the stuff that I have said I would never dream of saying to him.

My partner is doing well to understand I don’t mean anything
by it but I’m just wondering what’s causing it. I am very clear when it
 does happen. It can not happen for a few months then it will come out of nowhere and continue for a few nights. Thank you for your time, I value any input you may have.

Kristy

Hello Kristy

It sounds like a simple case of sleep talking. No one really knows what
makes some people talk in their sleep but it can be associated with
anxiety. If you are experiencing a lot of anxiety, try to work on
lessening it.

Other ways of reducing sleep talking..

Don’t eat a heavy meal just before bed
Try to go to bed and get up at the same times each day
Get enough sleep. Sleep deprived people sleep talk more often.

Hope this helps!

Sleep talking, or somniloquy, is usually caused by stress, anxiety, or not getting enough sleep. It is also common for people to talk in their sleep if they have a fever. There are a few things you can do if you’re a sleep talker who wants to stop this humiliating condition.

First and foremost you must get yourself into a good sleeping routine that will give you plenty hours of rest. Let’s say you usually sleep for eight hours a day – try and increase this to 10 hours. It’s surprising what a difference those two extra hours can make.

The benefits of a getting into the habit of having a good night’s sleep are twofold: the first is that you won’t be going to bed worrying about that early alarm clock – you’ll be good and ready to wake. The other benefit is that your stress levels will reduce, your anxiety will decrease, and you’ll be less prone to sleep talking.

Going to bed after a large meal is bad for you. You may fall asleep alright, but your stomach will be working overtime. This may cause indigestion and throw your sleep pattern into disarray. Change your eating habits – for example, eat four times a day instead of three, and make the servings smaller.

Monitor your stress levels and try not to feel anxious about things. You can do this by keeping positive thoughts in your mind, doing meditation, or even going for a walk. You need to try and keep your days peaceful and your evenings relaxed. Yoga is also great therapy for improving sleep.